When I look back on my life, I can see when people and/or situations were unhealthy, even toxic, for me, but I didn’t realise at the time. And even when I did realise, for a long while I didn’t feel able to extricate myself.
I did the very human thing of continuing to bang my head against a wall even though it’s damn painful because doing so is oh so familiar.
We’re creatures of habit; even set up to maintain homeostasis in our physicality, although for a very good reason. A change in the parameters could be lethal.
And it erroneously feels even more so during the midlife transition when your primary concern is to keep all those plates spinning!
As a species, we don’t embrace change easily, even when we know it would be good for us!
BUT…
As Anais Nin once said, “… the day comes when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
When it became just too painful to make myself small, dumb myself down, put up with things for a (seemingly) quiet life, or to please another at my own expense, I took action.
Everything from telling my husband I wanted a divorce to withdrawing from a particular “sales course” that wasn’t aligned with my values.
“Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage!”
CHOOSE YOURSELF!
It’s your divine right, your Wild Soul’s direction that eventually gets through to consciousness, and in that 20 seconds, it’s a loud and undeniable HELL NO!
Like the time I nearly killed myself by suicide, pills in one hand and water in the other. That freakin’ NO inside my head that, with insane courage, made me choose life instead.
So, say a big fat NO to whatever is killing you; the job, the relationship, the course, the class, the social group, even your own self-harming habit, thoughts, feelings, attitudes… Whatever the thing that’s not in line with your highest good.
YES, of course it’s scary… freakin’ scary!
It means you being or doing something different and as yet unknown.
But what’s even scarier is dying with a wasted life…
Choose yourself, woman.
Choose yourself!
Love and wild warm wishes…
Guiding stressed professional midlife women to
find the more-to-life they’re yearning for!
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